For you, what is the true meaning of love in a relationship?
Nowadays love is a bit hard to define, especially when we talk about love relationship. Some would say love is better in the old days, seems these days the word love has lesser value especially to the young ones now, not all but most. It seems just like a play, a garment or worst… like a cigarette.
Some would actually depend on dictionary on how to define it, some would take it from famous philosophers with their great quotations/philosophy about love, while there are people who based it in religion/belief. Some would just simply say they don’t know, and some are kinda speechless about that.
Most of us have experienced to love and to be loved, been in a relationship, been hurt before, stumbled in love and learned to get up and smile again. While others were stuck with their unfixed broken pieces and some became martyr with their nebulous affection.
How exactly do we know the answer for this question? What is the meaning of love in a relationship?
I asked a few people, and here are their answers.
Respect+protection=LOVE
Auntie Mado
For me Love is all about commitment and sacrifice to someone you love because every time you fall in love you need to always prepare yourself. Sabi pa nga ng isang talata sa facebook “Once you fall inlove, kakayanin mo lahat-lahat. Yung sakit, selos, sama ng loob and the truth na kahit masakit na, still mahal na mahal mo pa rin siya. Because true love never surrender. It always finds a way to understand the pain.” Maybe as a youth wag natin madaliin, lahat may perfect time. For me I promised na kasi sa sarili ko next na ma fa fall ako sa tamang tao na maybe sa ngayon let’s enjoy kung anong meron tayo may plano si LORD sa lahat.
Kiboy Tundag, 18 College Student
Everytime people ask about Love the first thing in my Mind is this verse “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”
Lovesue53, 30 OFW
1 Corinthians 13:4-5 | NIV
And yes this comes from the bible! Because Love is Jesus 😇 put this in Mind you know what love is if you know jesus! Yes i know we are not perfect we can do mistake sometimes or worst most of the time but Jesus loves Us even we are Not perfect even we’ve done lot of mistakes! He still accept Us because that is Love acceptance ,keep no records of wrong…
In any different aspects of Love Our life evolves only to Him !
READ THE BIBLE THEN YOU WILL KNOW WHAT LOVE IS 😇❤️
LOve in a relationship: 1. A fruit of a faithful prayer of guidance from GOD and His revelation of the HIS written love story for both of you. 2. Acceptance (imperfections) is present between opposite sex. and continues working to make it right. 3. understanding and commitment 4. God is in the center.
Janice, 29 Teacher
In such a very fast-changing environment in our world, the concept of love as well keeps on changing. Furthermore, nowadays, we acknowledge different relationships in our society – may it be between two lovers as the most common example, between family members, or between friends. True love then in a relationship may invite several answers. However, there is one thing that most people in relationships lack: inclusiveness. An inclusive behavior invites the mix of communication and understanding, both of which are very essential when establishing rapport towards multiple personalities. Therefore, the true meaning of love in a relationship is being inclusive towards everyone involved, their beliefs, and their own meaning of what love is as well. In that way, love becomes a virus that infects everyone who feels casted away, isolated, and has developed a negative disposition towards the world. Love indeed in this century has grown to be very vague, which is why finding its truest meaning is rather challenging. Nonetheless, if we start inviting people into the conversation with an inclusive disposition and an upbringing demeanor, everyone’s own meaning of love is considered and understood. After all, what we strive for when we would want to be loved starts with the realization of being accepted and included.
Joshua John Noble, Single, Grade 12
Love is an intangible thing yet it is in everything, and in everyone around us. It is something that binds us to each other, something that strengthen our ties with a person. The true meaning of love in a relationship is many things but one: poison.
Bey, Single, College Student
It may seem that you’re choked up in a relationship and you begin to doubt things and you feel like giving up but love – being in love – was never a bad thing. It was never a bad call. True love is not gentle. It is not black and white, and it’s definitely never easy. If anything, it is strong like the slaps of waves in the rocks, forgiving like a breeze in summer, and understanding like a moon in a dark night. Love in a relationship may be sloppy at times but that’s the essence of romance, isn’t it? The uncertainty and the genuineness of every waking moment is what makes it so special. True love is not perfect, it never was. It has many loopholes and you’ll make mistakes in a relationship and most of the time you’ll be confused because you don’t even know why you love a certain someone and you can’t pinpoint exactly what you feel except that you’re blissful when you’re with your person, you’re feeling thankful you had a shot at love in this lifetime and you feel funny because you never knew anything so close to this like before but that’s the point. It’s love because you don’t its love until it hit you in the face in the most unexpected time.
These are the answers I got from these wonderful people. Seeing their own point of view about love makes me think that, it is always fascinating to know the mind of other people especially those who surround you. We can definitely look on the same thing and perceive it differently, right? For some, love is such a wonderful thing, a paradise, a summer kiss, a hot shower in a cold evening and this may turn different for the others. Maybe a nightmare, a fantasy, an impossible thing, a smoke, or a dream that will never come true.
Now, if we search this question on Google, we will get this kind of answer; “
Love is being able to understand someone fully.When you look at someone and they just get you, they know your needs and your wants and both of you put each others’ happiness above your own. There’s a level of respect and trust and affection when you are in love that is staggering.
Whoever uploaded that answer we know that it’s just another person who give his own discernment about love. If we asked some random people to give their ideas, the meaning of love depends on the person’s perception. It varies from relationship to relationship as well.
Sometimes a relationship ends because you thought that this person doesn’t love you, just because he doesn’t express it the way you want him to. Keep in mind that each person has his own standards in defining love and showing it. Each individual has different ways in expressing and showing love.
Now if you ask me about my answer, this is how I define it…
For me the true meaning of love in a relationship is that…
Love is being sincere, you are true to your feelings for that someone and that you are not deceiving the person. Next is being understanding, being in a relationship both must be open-minded, willing to listen and there comes understanding. Protective and compassionate to the person and to your relationship. When you are compassionate you are thoughtful and you are sensitive to the feelings of the person you love.
For me love contains all the goodness in this world, anything that is done with good intention for that relationship or for that person is the true meaning of love. Did you ever wake up with a great smile on your face, like everything that surrounds you shine and that it feels like you are so blessed. (effect of being in love) When it comes to relationship no matter what kind, (i.e. opposite sex, same sex, friendship, family etc.) we give care, we are being thoughtful, respectful, we do things that can make the person happy because of love. We give what we can give without question, without doubt, we are so compassionate to the person. A feeling that you can do whatever it is, despite of pain and heartaches we still love the person, we forgive and never let go.
Yet there is also another form of love that is so true, when being in a relationship and knowing that the person you love is in love with someone else, we used to let go for the sake and happiness of that person we love so dear. This is what we call unselfishness.
Love is definitely mind and heart blowing thing for me. hahaha’
I want to share this to you my dear readers, while I was trying to search online I saw Tayi Sanusi’s blog about the same topic and I really love her explanation. Take time to read it too, here’s the link:
To the wonderful people who took time to share their understanding about love, thank you so much. May you find true love along the way. Live life to the fullest.
How about you? What is your perception about this love thing in a relationship? Do you have the same belief/idea? Come on and share yours on the comment section.
Scrivened Soul 